Our Ego and Its Hatred of Failure

More times than not, our ego forces us to hold on to what’s unhealthy or it leads down a path of self-destruction. It convinces us that if we change course or drop a bad habit, we have essentially “lost”. But despite its hold over us, it’s often difficult to sense its presence and so we are almost defenceless against it.

In order to lessen the hold our ego has over us, we must recognise that:

1. Failure is Important

Not only is failing or “losing” part of life, it’s also hugely important. How will we ever become better people or do better at our jobs without first making mistakes? Failing shows us clearly what works and what doesn’t, and if we are willing to listen, we will benefit greatly.

2. Failure is never as bad as we think it is

Our ego tends to exaggerate how badly we have failed. To the point where we believe that we can’t recover. Like with number 1, this prevents us from learning important lessons that would often take us on the path towards success.

While we are on this journey of self-improvement, its important to acknowledge the role our ego plays. It will often stand in our way and reduce our willingness to change. So it’s important that we start tackling it early on. Otherwise, we will constantly be taking two steps forward and three steps back.

5 Steps To Declutter Your Mind

I have always struggled dealing with how fast-paced life can be. This often leads to me stressing about 100 different things and not being able to fully focus on anyone of them. This isn’t a good thing to do, as a cluttered mind leads to a cluttered life. There is only a certain amount of energy that is available to us every day and if, for the most part, that energy goes to absolute nonsense, there is very little left to actually spend on our priorities and useful activities.  

Now that we have entered a new year, I would like to really start decluttering my mind. After doing some research, I’ve come up with 5 useful steps that would (hopefully) lead to this. Although I have done some of these before, I never really took it seriously; so, the results of implementing these steps in the next 30 days will be interesting.  

  1. Write everything down 

Whether it’s an actual Journal or Notes on our phone, it’s important to write everything down. This will transfer our thoughts to paper and free up some space in our mind. And seeing our thoughts on paper will allow us to have more clarity and control over them.  

  1. Declutter your phone 

It’s well known that decluttering our space is important but that also holds true for our phone. Limiting our notifications, spring cleaning our contact list and deleting useless apps will help ease our mind and let go of what’s unnecessary. 

  1. Remember your priorities 

Make a list of your priorities and read them. This helps us put aside those things that are trivial so that we can focus on what’s truly important in our lives.

  1. Letting go of what you can’t control 

In order for this to work, you have to actually know what it is that you can’t control. I believe that is usually everything but ourselves. If we accept that we can only control our actions, it becomes easier to focus on ourselves and gain a peace of mind. 

  1. Stop Multitasking  

This will definitely be difficult for me since I am constantly thinking and doing 2 different things at once. By focusing on one activity or task, it will help us feel less stressful and exhausted. It will be easier to be productive and actually finish what we have started. 

It’s important, that in a time where we have so little control of what is happening, we don’t lose ourselves. Focusing on keeping our mind healthy and at peace is an effective way of accomplishing that. 

 In 30 days, I’ll give an update on my progress!